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“You don’t look anything like your brothers.” “Do you and your brother have the same parents?” “Is your mom White?” Shannon grew up with people making such comments about her darker complexion compared to her lighter-skinned brothers and her fairer mother. While these comments were coming from the outside, at home her parents and brothers did not engage in such conversations. Her mom loved taking Shannon and her brothers to the beach and the pool. Never fussed about their complexion. Her dad always made sure to indicate that he thought dark-skinned people were beautiful. So, when negative comments came from the outside, Shannon was able to pause and reflect on them instead of believing in them. The comments however never stopped, whether it was from her college friends or work colleagues. While she never let comments of skin color affect her negatively, she remembers a time when she became conscious of the “angry Black person stereotype.” She felt that she tried so hard, “almost to a fault” to be nice and calm, but regardless of her efforts felt people couldn’t get past that image. Shannon has been able to reflect and grow from these experiences. She is now enrolled in a doctoral program where she is studying how colorism impacts students in education. Along with her husband, she is also engaged in open conversations with her 9-year old daughter and 13-year old son reminding them that they are beautiful, just the way they are. Shannon continues to nurture a family environment similar to the one she grew up in – an environment of acceptance and love.